Famous sex therapist, Laura Berman of the Berman Centre, Chicago, couldn’t be further from the truth when she avers that many barriers are standing in the way of a steamy sex life. If you suddenly find the evening sports news, or the late night talk show more exciting than your partner, you should realise you are facing some of these barriers. Dr. Berman lists poor body image and boredom as some of the factors that turn off sex partners. Nevertheless, the good news is that you can re-ignite the spark in your sex life. Read on to find out more.
Go Beyond the Ordinary
When you have been together for some time, it is easy to fall into routine – have dinner, go to bed, have sex and fall asleep. When sex becomes predictable, it loses its thrill. It becomes boring, and almost a formality. Research indicates that a little adventure may go a long way in spicing up your sex life. Try something outside your bedroom. Surprise each other by venturing into intimacy in the most unlikely of places, such as the kitchen, or right there in the dining room.
Use Sex Toys
It may be something that features only in porn movies, but hey, it can work you! Older couples may find it a little awkward, but you can have a vibrator delivered to your doorstep, thanks to many online stores dealing in sex merchandise. Sex toys will help you to map out the erogenous zones on your body which you and your partner can focus on during the special sessions.
Talk with your Partner
No matter how long you have been together and you no longer see the need to discuss certain issues, it is still important to hold a heart-to-heart conversation with your partner concerning your sex lives. Nothing can be as vanquishing to your libido than silence. Talk to your mate to discover what turns them on or off. Finding about their fantasies may also go a long way in rejuvenating your sexuality.
Spend More Time on Foreplay
Firing up your romance may just be as simple as spending more time on foreplay. Touch each other more, kiss every inch of your partner’s body, and – there is no harm in talking dirty. Research shows that women may enjoy the foreplay more than the intercourse itself. Turn every activity into foreplay: you can touch each other as your wash the utensils or take a bath.
Too many fats and sugar may kill off your libido. It is; therefore, important to adopt a healthy eating lifestyle that helps keep your body in tiptop shape. Get more of vitamins and proteins and less of animal fats. Remember, there is nothing sexy about a fat body.
Although many factors may combine to put your sex lives under threat, there is always something you can do to reinvigorate your bedroom sessions. Apart from adopting a healthy lifestyle, don’t be afraid to introduce sex toys into the bedroom. Engage in lots of foreplay to heighten the atmosphere and remember to discuss with each other about your feelings.